I know the difference.
I know the difference between guilt for *actually* being the more destructive force in ending a relationship.
Even though my actions were caused by being hurt and traumatized myself, I still feel the weight of how I was. I could have handled it better.
That was a long time ago. I grew.
In most recent years, in all the other relationships that have dissolved, I know:
It WASN’T me.
It either wasn’t a great mutual fit…
…or the other person was *more* horrible in their actions than I ever was.
I feel NO guilt.
In fact, I feel the opposite of guilt.
I feel vindication.
Because there is NOTHING else I could have done to repair the damage. Period.
This was NOT my fault.
